you know... tonight has definitely made me realize something. there are many different people on this planet... and so trying to lump them into two categories is nearly impossible... but i'm going to do it anyway for the sake of drama.

there are those who live independently... and those who need someone else to live for them.

now, dependent people can be dependent on anyone, really. or it might not be a person at all. we all know that the drug/alcohol/cigarette/gambling/obsession or addiction to anything else argument has been proven. i don't need to go there. so back to that dependent on other people thing. sometimes it can be a parent. sometimes a close relative. sometimes a good friend. but, more often than not... it's a significant other.

it is quite an accepted truth that when some people get into romantic relationships, they slack on maintaining outside friendships. now i am not saying this isn't true for everyone to a certain extent... because there are only so many hours in a day, and only so many places you can be at once. but i'm not talking about just a slight change in time management. i'm talking about those who become intertwined with their partner to such a degree that you (and maybe even they) forget who they are as an individual.

i went to the movies tonight with some special people. but i'd like to highlight two, in particular. these two very good friends of mine are dating. i'd stretch it so far to say exclusive. they are a couple. they are lovely. but they aren't lovely because they have such a great relationship, or because he always holds the door, or because they are always honest with each other, or because they'd look smashing on a christmas card in matching outfits. they are lovely because they are independent. they aren't a package deal. they are their own separate entities... and together they make something outstanding. but even when they aren't together... they are still outstanding. in the same way too. they don't have these retarded "couplehood" hats they put on every time they are together.

they are my friends. they both make time for me. i love spending time with them when they are together. and apart. i am not afraid of either of them getting jealous or pissy with me because i could be a third wheel or competition or a threat... because they wouldn't. they are confident enough in themselves, their relationship and in me.

and my lord, is that refreshing. finally... i have a role model for the type of relationship i want. thanx... for letting me live vicariously through you two tonight. heh. i'd almost dare to say that we are even now... but...

naw. you all still owe me frickin HUUUUGE!